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Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

To completely fork this thread: is it normal for mods to run exchanges that contain content everybody on the mod team is too squicked/triggered by to be able to read? That seems like. A very bad choice. If you're a mod who knows they can't mod certain kinds of content, either preemptively ban that from your exchange or find a comod who can cover what you can't.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I'm guessing they like F/M but they don't like M/M and wanted someone else to read it. And there's no team, it's just them.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

...if you dislike M/M so much that you don't think you can fairly judge it. Don't mod a shipping fest that includes a lot of M/M without recruiting a comod.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I didn't say it was good reasoning!

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

The mod in question ships M/M and M/M incest, so I'm not sure what this is getting at?

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

The fic contained incest and the mod was deeply triggered by that :ghost hughs: evil recip thought they'd get an EPH because they knew mod was too scquicked out to read

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, that's a bit more reasonable. But even then, incest is predicably likely to come up in this kind of exchange, (especially in the fics that require mod intervention,) it's not like they're squicked by tomato juice kink or something super specific. Like. Ban incest in your fest and then you won't have to close-read, or find someone who will agree in advance to mod anything incest-related that comes up, both of those are options. "Being able to close-read questionable fics" is one of the core job requirements?

And the accommodation ("get an assistant with non-overlapping triggers") is very doable.

If the mod had reason to believe this person knew they couldn't handle incest and assumed they'd be too triggered to check it properly (or if they were in fact triggered and not handling it well) the assumption of bad faith is a little more explicable. But also like. "Need to close read an incest fic" was a really predictable problem. They should have had something set up in advance. What the Mod Cabal should be for is to give people that kind of advice before they end up triggering themself.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

RelationShipping is an incest exchange...

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Wait are you serious? I want to believe you are joking that the incest exchange mod is squicked by incest, but after seeing the rest of this I’m not even all that sure.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

no, the mod said they were squicked by the ages, and their comod was squicked by the specific incest dynamic - not incest in general. saying the mod was triggered by incest in an incest ex is a huge misrepresentation of whats going on here

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

It's not a misrepresentation, it's a joke.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

cyrt

I am not in the server and made this joke thinking it was just a joke, but it turns out half of it is not even a joke. Reality really is weirder than fiction. It wouldn't surprise me if the mods also accused the recip of asking for help just to trigger them.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

ah that explains why mod sounded BEC about the recip

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe this is a hot take, but I don't think someone should mod an incest exchange if there's any incest configuration that squicks you so much you can't do something like this. Don't like parent/child incest? Don't run an incest exchange.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe they should... get over it and read it anyway? Why are they hiding behind "squicked"? That's just a word for finding something gross. Many things gross me out and I can still read them just fine. If they are least claimed it was triggering to them in a way that couldn't be anticipated by the exchange theme I'd be more understanding but this just seems lazy.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

There's at least two RS mods, the other mod references "my comod" a fair bit.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

...that makes the whole thing even dumber then, why did they even need to take it to the discord???

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

To play "look at this" to all their equally bitch friends.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

that's the purpose of the mod discord: to get a second opinion from other mods.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Can someone just say what fic or fandom this is? I've been driving myself crazy trying to find it and maybe I'm just stupid, but I can't.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

No <3

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

So you're saying coal is better at keeping things private than the mod?

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think it's that big a deal - few people are genuinely so hard to squick that they can do that kind of close reading on absolutely any gift without issue, and EPHs or other issues that require close reading are comparatively rare. Having a co-mod is desirable, but asking someone else to jump in to co-mod if and when that actually happens is also a perfectly valid approach.

(...Provided you do so discreetly and with tact, which was not done here.)

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Or, in this case, discretely ask the mods who run the exchange before them. But there would've been no fun in it, right?

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, sometimes stuff just turns up that you didn't expected, that is not related to the theme of your exchange.

Not that that's an excuse for this mod's behavior, of course.