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Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I think for someone who is a bit conflict averse it makes sense, and if it's motivated by dislike of EO maybe it makes even more sense.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

It makes emotional sense but isn't actually acceptable behavior, IMO. I say that as someone who is also conflict averse.

It's easy to "address" conflict by posting about it anonymously. It can feel validating to get engagement when you do so. Really, though, it's avoiding the uncomfortable parts of the conflict; it's the very definition of passive-aggressive. I don't think we should kid ourselves that it improves anyone's situation, including a recipient who did not agree to have explicit detail of their private exchange experience posted here any more than they consented to have it posted in the mod chat.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, well if you're conflict averse that's fine then!

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

I'm not saying it's fine - but the message I replied to said it made no sense. I explained how it made sense. It makes sense if the reporter is a conflict averse person with a grudge. The actions fit together if you think about it from that point of view. It's possible to understand human behavior without endorsing it.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

cyrt

Gotcha.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. I'm not in that server and like to think myself pretty bold with calling people out on their shit, but also, honestly, it can get very old after a while. If I'm having to do that regularly, I will probably reevaluate if it's worth it sticking around in that community.

I spoke up once about a similar situation elsewhere and all it got me was grief and the impression that I made the wank worse by making a big deal out of it.

I agree that posting logs for anonspace to wank about is a bad way to go about addressing that kind of server climate issue, but at the same time, it's also a symptom of the server climate being a certain way.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I get that, but when someone did call it out a few hours later, they didn't suffer consequences.

OP reported it after that.

To me that does not suggest a climate of suppression where it's impossible to call out bad behavior.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

I thought it interesting that one of the people calling EO out was the server mod... but they did it in a way that felt very dismissive towards the recipient's concerns too.

I would love someone who's actually in the server to comment on the climate.