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Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

no, the mod said they were squicked by the ages, and their comod was squicked by the specific incest dynamic - not incest in general. saying the mod was triggered by incest in an incest ex is a huge misrepresentation of whats going on here

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

It's not a misrepresentation, it's a joke.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

mb then i missed that completely lol

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

cyrt

I am not in the server and made this joke thinking it was just a joke, but it turns out half of it is not even a joke. Reality really is weirder than fiction. It wouldn't surprise me if the mods also accused the recip of asking for help just to trigger them.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

ah that explains why mod sounded BEC about the recip

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

For sure. Maybe the mod(s) tried to read the fic but found it upsetting because of their squicks and that's why they went into the mods conversation with a certain amount of resentment already built up. It's understandable to feel hurt and upset by something and go "This person is responsible for the hurt, this must have been on purpose and there's something wrong with them", or put some amount of irrational blame on the recip for even making them try to read the fic that closely, but in that situation a mod should cool off and step away, not go looking for an echo chamber of random mods to validate feeling squicked and hurt by an unreasonable EPH request.

(...I swear I didn't start out this post with the intention to sound this petty, yet here we are. Doesn't feel great, does it?)

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

lmao

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Is this a parody? I can't tell.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

ya

https://coaltide.dreamwidth.org/9042.html?thread=20075090#cmt20075090

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe this is a hot take, but I don't think someone should mod an incest exchange if there's any incest configuration that squicks you so much you can't do something like this. Don't like parent/child incest? Don't run an incest exchange.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed. Having limits is normal, but if those limits are things that are just not possible but likely to appear in large amounts in your exchange, then maybe you should rethink if you're the right person for the job.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

Tbh, I also think that for an incest exchange, if you want to mod it then you should be pretty okay with underage sex, too. It’s pretty common in incest works. If any type of incest, or underage sex generally, squicks you so much that you can’t do a close read of a fic like that, then perhaps modding an incest exchange is best left to someone else.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

If you need the Relationshipping mod to look over your gift, please consider requesting ships they enjoy! These include The Bear cousincest and MCU related!AUs for this year, or evergreen Oasis brocest. Always make sure your creator didn't include any of the mod's DNWs.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

👀 Are you saying that the RS mod is the person whose username starts with an A?

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

DC

(But is this the RS mod in the chat or the co-mod?)

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

mod in the chat.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

well done!
a _ a _ _ _ _ _ a
buy a vowel? 👀

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

this person is in their 30s????????

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

e!

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Are you claiming you’re sharing the name for great justice and not because you’re a messy bitch who loves drama? I have doubts.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe they should... get over it and read it anyway? Why are they hiding behind "squicked"? That's just a word for finding something gross. Many things gross me out and I can still read them just fine. If they are least claimed it was triggering to them in a way that couldn't be anticipated by the exchange theme I'd be more understanding but this just seems lazy.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

-1

There are other options than "force yourself to read a thing you find uncomfortable to read" and "bring the issue to a bunch of other random mods to complain about it".

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry, I think part of your mod duties is reading things you find uncomfortable to read.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Ironic, when you clearly didn't read the comment you were replying to.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

Hypothetically, sure, but it's such a false dilemma. On the rare occasion that you need to closely read a gift with your squicks, you can just... ask a friend to read it whose opinion and level head you trust. Or another mod. There's nothing wrong with going outside of the exchange organizers to get a second opinion as long as you don't make a spectacle out of it.