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Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe they should... get over it and read it anyway? Why are they hiding behind "squicked"? That's just a word for finding something gross. Many things gross me out and I can still read them just fine. If they are least claimed it was triggering to them in a way that couldn't be anticipated by the exchange theme I'd be more understanding but this just seems lazy.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

-1

There are other options than "force yourself to read a thing you find uncomfortable to read" and "bring the issue to a bunch of other random mods to complain about it".

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry, I think part of your mod duties is reading things you find uncomfortable to read.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Ironic, when you clearly didn't read the comment you were replying to.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Would love to hear you elaborate on that!

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

Hypothetically, sure, but it's such a false dilemma. On the rare occasion that you need to closely read a gift with your squicks, you can just... ask a friend to read it whose opinion and level head you trust. Or another mod. There's nothing wrong with going outside of the exchange organizers to get a second opinion as long as you don't make a spectacle out of it.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

+1

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

The spectacle was made when it was brought here. The mod server is a relatively private space like any other Discord. Now every detail is spread all over two anon memes because OP wanted to gossip in public instead of push back against other mods.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Right, it wouldn't have been a problem if 20 people had called this person a stupid liar in private, it's only because we know about it that it's a problem.

Fuck off.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

DC

No, it's still a bad look that the first mod was all "wow can't believe this person is asking for an EPH" instead of just "I need a second opinion to adjudicate this".

It's just that it's worse to spread it across coal and keep spreading it and no, please do not pretend you're doing it for great justice, coalie. You can be honest with yourself.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I am not the one posting from the mod server because I am not in the mod server. However, I do think it's incredibly stupid to say that exposing bad behavior is worse than bad behavior.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

However, I do think it's incredibly stupid to say that exposing bad behavior is worse than bad behavior.

I don't think that's the argument.

Part of what you're defining as the original bad behavior involves sharing private details.

The "exposing" of the bad behavior in this case involves spreading private details further, as well as doing other things.

So the exposure in this case compounds the first harm.

Defining the entire situation as "exposing bad behavior" is cherrypicking. There were ways to call this out - including in the server where it happened - that did not compound harms.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I wouldn't care about sharing quotes from an email in the server if it hadn't been done to invite people to bully the participant, which resulted in people doing just that, and I doubt anyone else would have either.

Letting people know who did the bullying is not the same thing. The context is entirely different.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

+1

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

+2

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

"if it hadn't been done to invite people to bully the participant"

This is literally what you did here when you shared quotes from the mod discord with coaltide. People talking about someone who isn't in the room by specifically disagreeing the gift they received doesn't require an EPH replacement isn't bullying. Even what EO said wasn't bullying, it was just being a raging dick which is consistent with everything else EO does. OP bullied the recip by playing the "guess what everyone's saying about you behind your back" game but OP is anonymous and couldn't be bothered to speak up during the conversation.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I have no horse in this race but let's be honest, OP was just a coward who thought coming here was better. Made for great wank though.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Are you stupid?

Genuinely.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think they are but you on the other hand........

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

I see once again we have people desperately trying to spin this whole thing as "it's not bullying to insult people behind their back from positions of mild hobby power, it's only bullying to let the victim know they're being insulted." It's not going to work, because that's transparently wrong to anyone and everyone.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

+1

Some real childish bully "but he hit me back" crying going on here. Taste of your own medicine and all.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

Yes yes you're butthurt because you didn't get away with roasting an exchange participant in the privacy of your ~mod cabal server and now everyone knows what you're all like.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

But of course, it's actually the whistleblower who is wrong. If only they'd gone through the proper channels with their complaints things could have been addressed internally and all this reputation damage avoided.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

It's almost comically funny that they don't realize how this sounds.

Re: Mod Cabal

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

When I said making a spectacle, I actually meant "posting parts of emails and picking their request apart in front of an audience of other mods while going can you believe this shot lol did they think I wouldn't check".

But thanks for the note.