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One Wank After Another
A blank assignment is a funny thing, isn't it? When you have it, you don't appreciate it, and when you miss it, it's gone.
Wednesday 10 December: Default deadline (9pm UTC)
Wednesday 17 December: Assignment deadline (9pm UTC)
Wednesday 24 December: Main collection works reveals (9pm UTC)
Thursday 25 December: Madness collection works reveals (9pm UTC)
Thursday 1 January: Author reveals, end of event (9pm UTC)
Mini-Challenges:
Crueltide | Femslash Festivus | Yulebuilding | Three Turtle Doves | Two for One | Yuleporn
Family Matters | Queering the Tide | Yuletide Madness Drabble Invitational | TransTide
Chromatic Yuletide | Unconventionyule | Wrapping Paper | Babytide | MultiLingYule
Yuletide Discord for Hippos & Exchanges After Dark for namespacedrama 18+ discussion.
Wednesday 10 December: Default deadline (9pm UTC)
Wednesday 17 December: Assignment deadline (9pm UTC)
Wednesday 24 December: Main collection works reveals (9pm UTC)
Thursday 25 December: Madness collection works reveals (9pm UTC)
Thursday 1 January: Author reveals, end of event (9pm UTC)
Mini-Challenges:
Crueltide | Femslash Festivus | Yulebuilding | Three Turtle Doves | Two for One | Yuleporn
Family Matters | Queering the Tide | Yuletide Madness Drabble Invitational | TransTide
Chromatic Yuletide | Unconventionyule | Wrapping Paper | Babytide | MultiLingYule
Yuletide Discord for Hippos & Exchanges After Dark for namespace

Re: Unpopular Opinion Time
(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 11:38 am (UTC)(link)What a weird response, especially with that "Where are the examples, huh? HUH?" gotchas. There have been two examples in the thread that have nothing to do with Aurae, if you bothered to read. I could name more, but I don't actually want to put those recips on blast, because I think using DNWs to railroad someone into your prompt is tacky but not something you deserve to get a bunch of bored coalies poring over.
Also "just game for blank sign-ups in Yuletide, the exchange where you can't see requests during sign-ups" - what even lmao. Newsflash, the participants signing up with blank sign-ups aren't the ones posting their letters in the app.
I also enjoy the shifting of goalposts in
Give us an example of someone currently who has such a laundry list that no one could possibly write for them.
"Nobody, not one soul in the entire participants list could possibly write for this request" has not been the issue at hand here and you damn well know it. This is an exchange with (mostly) blind matching, lmao. You're well within your rights to DNW everything other than one (1) and only hyperspecific thing that could make you happy in this fandom, but your odds of matching to a writer who is the one person who would be happy to write that are pretty low.
Just don't railroad your writer into one thing and let them have some options. It's that easy.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 02:16 pm (UTC)(link)Re: Unpopular Opinion Time
(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 02:41 pm (UTC)(link)And I repeat, you still aren't giving any examples that back you up. In the wank about the unrequested relationships and how to write for that. Coalies have given reasonable options that could be done in 1000 words, but you're not paying attention there either. Also, wow, it's funny that you're the one suddenly trying to stake the high ground and saying it's not worth coalies' time to wank about people's sign-ups when the only reason this is an argument is because you made it one by insisting this is some sort of widespread problem in exchanges that needs to be fixed ASAP instead of a personal preference of yours.
And speaking of goalpost moving... you've gone from "all these people are demanding 'spec fic' and this affects me somehow" to "well, it'll be hard for someone else to match to them." What do you care if someone is trickier to write for than others? You're not the one assigned to them and given how fast Yuletide pinch hits get picked up, there's clearly someone out there who has no problem writing for them. And if you are matched to some "tacky" person and you've just buried the lede, that's why the mods have the clause about unreasonable DNWs so you can let them know that your recipient is railroading you (unless they've already told you no and you're lashing out here because of that). I wonder if you also get mad at people who get EPHs because they should have just sucked it up and been grateful for whatever shit they got.
Honestly, though, maybe I've misjudged your creativity because you've certainly managed to come up with some very unique perspectives on gifts. I am aware you can't see blank sign-ups at the beginning, but nothing is stopping you now from unleashing your creativity on one of them and turning this into a positive experience.
Re: Unpopular Opinion Time
(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 09:46 pm (UTC)(link)I feel like this wank has had a lot of one coalie saying "But it would really limit what you were able to write if you couldn't do that, it's pretty restrictive" and another coalie replying "that's not unreasonable! It's easy to avoid if you just really limit what you write!" and then first coalie saying "See! It's limiting!" and second coalie saying "It's possible to just follow the limits!" ad infinitum while getting progessively ruder about it
Like. "That really limits what you can write" and "that's not an impossible limit" can both be true.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 09:50 pm (UTC)(link)Re: Unpopular Opinion Time
(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:08 pm (UTC)(link)Re: Unpopular Opinion Time
(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 09:54 pm (UTC)(link)The very nature of fic exchanges is that there are limits to what you're allowed to write. If this is an issue, then the solution is pretty obvious. Be free and limitless!
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:17 pm (UTC)(link)I just wish we were still having that argument instead of people repeatedly saying "but setting limits on your writer doesn't limit your writer." like. Obviously people are going to disagree on that one.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:21 pm (UTC)(link)The volume of "It's terrible how so many people write railroady requests nowadays!" assertions is annoying when this begs the question so urgently.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)I mean, read between the lines there. A lot of coalies agreeing about railroady requests are probably complaining about their current assignment. They're not going to be spilling more info on that for obvious reasons.
I'm not sure why you're dismissing the cited examples just because you disagree. That's just, like, your opinion, man. I've written for one of those people and yes it felt exactly like writing a commission. Maybe you just feel differently because your tastes align with the recip's tastes.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:32 pm (UTC)(link)A lot of coalies agreeing about railroady requests are probably complaining about their current assignment. They're not going to be spilling more info on that for obvious reasons. Sure, maybe!
Just to make sure we are on the same page:
The cited examples are:
-Aurae/Aariel/I think it was actually MiriamKenneath or Blue_Ringed_Octopus, throwing a hissy fit over getting a mention of Padme when asking for a Vader/Leia fic
-An unspecified person who takes "no previous relationships" to an unusual degree, not named
-BardicRaven
And further back in coal:
-DNW italics/other emphasis
-DNW incest/rape for Black Jewels
And I think there was another one on last post but someone else will have to dig that up?
I'm not sure why you're dismissing the cited examples just because you disagree. That's just, like, your opinion, man. I've written for one of those people and yes it felt exactly like writing a commission. Maybe you just feel differently because your tastes align with the recip's tastes.
If the assertion is "some people are railroading", then I think it is reasonable to look at specific examples and opine on whether they are railroady. The assertion was not "some people's long and complicated DNW lists are restrictive to me." I certainly can't disagree that different people will find different DNW lists easier or harder to work with! But that isn't railroading.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:32 pm (UTC)(link)"Maybe you just feel differently because your tastes align with the recip's tastes."
Or they matched on a different fandom that doesn't clash with the DNWs as badly.
Re: Unpopular Opinion Time
(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:39 pm (UTC)(link)Or we just disagree because we understand that "I personally find this DNW limiting because I have an id mismatch with my recip" and "the request is railroading" are very different things.
It sucks to be matched to someone who's such a mismatch that writing something that fills the request feels like pulling teeth, yes. That doesn't mean the recip did anything wrong.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-11 04:49 am (UTC)(link)Gee, I wonder why.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:27 pm (UTC)(link)There is ground for nuance between "limits exist" and "no limits exist", ffs.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:34 pm (UTC)(link)Because we use "limit" differently here. People who say "these DNW limit me" have repeatedly said that they mean that this is something that impedes their creativity and spoils their fun, whereas saying "exchange fic sets limits as to what the writer is allowed to write" is a neutral statement.
And either way "where is the line for too many limits" is not something that's possible to answer when it comes to DNWs because how limiting DNWs are is subjective and depends on the author's own preferences. Personally, I'd find a single "DNW: A/B" or even a "DNW: italics for emphasis" much more limiting (but still valid!) than a laundry list of "DNW: darkfic, smut, original or unrequested characters, character death, any mentions of children, semicolons, AUs, fic set before the end of canon, kink". Someone else will probably feel differently and might find "DNW: original characters" terribly limiting and everything else easy to accommodate.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:50 pm (UTC)(link)I disagree that we can't discuss where the line is for too many limits just because it's subjective. (And now we're getting somewhere interesting!) For one thing, we already do view some DNWs as too restrictive, officially or unofficially. "DNW: AUs" and "DNW: anything" other than a coffee shop AU" in a request would be seen very differently.
I just think it's a courtesy to allow some leeway. You might not match to someone who wants to write that specific thing, and that's ok.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 11:00 pm (UTC)(link)Except your example isn't subjective. "DNW: anything other than a coffee shop AU" is the very definition of railroading. Regardless of whether I personally like coffee shop AUs (I do) and would find this limiting myself, it's a railroading DNW.
And there's a massive difference between that and a DNW like "no requested relationships". That's what some of us have been saying all along. Railroading is not subjective (and generally not enforcable). Whether a DNW is limiting for you personally and might get in the way of you having the best time writing your assignment on the other hand is subjective (and a reasonable DNW).
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-11 06:29 pm (UTC)(link)They wondered if the other coalie was in very different fandoms, or if they were just the type whose eyes skipped over formatting when they read and they simply didn't notice the italics use in the fic they read.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:21 pm (UTC)(link)I only see one side getting rude about it and determined to die on the hill of BUT WHERE ARE THE RECEIPTS, SHOW US THOSE RECEIPTS SO WE CAN WANK EVEN MORE. The wank has the same flavor as the one from early in the season about whether you're an asshole for going ODAO instead of defaulting and I'm kind of surprised to see the coalies bat so hard for the opposite side here.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:25 pm (UTC)(link)This all started with some pretty bold assertions, centering around "I do think (some/many) people are now using DNWs as a way to make the optional details not optional."
And I would personally only accept that premise if "(some/many)" was switched for "(in very rare cases)", but you want to proceed with on the assumption that some/many is correct.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-10 10:37 pm (UTC)(link)I was counting the "Just stop doing exchanges" comments that started pretty early and predictably and are not just rude but the death of any genuinely interesting argumentation. I don't really have a strong opinion on how common or uncommon it is because that seems pointless to litigate. Least interesting part of the conversation IMO.
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(Anonymous) 2025-11-11 04:45 am (UTC)(link)Slow your roll there, Perry Mason. It may shock you, but an anonmeme where people bitch about exchanges is not a fucking court of law.
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