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coalie ([personal profile] coalcube) wrote in [community profile] coaltide2025-12-24 02:02 pm
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Coal Rivalry

All the things Coal said, running through my head.

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Re: Actual Coal (or, what were they thinking)

(Anonymous) 2025-12-28 04:43 am (UTC)(link)
CYRT

I have no interest in that. Not only is it unhealthy to ask people to say, “You poor widdle baby!” in the context of harassment, the further that exchange retreats into the past, the more pointless such behaviour becomes. (Also, obtaining validation from the Internet, especially a site whose users are grumpy at best, is a silly idea.)

Genuinely, thank you for the feedback. I’m curious how you think I should refer to the harassment and flagellation, not to restart the wank, but as a helpful reference.

Re: Actual Coal (or, what were they thinking)

(Anonymous) 2025-12-28 10:56 am (UTC)(link)
DC

You shouldn't refer to it at all. Call it a past exchange fuck up if you must. Your need to bring it up in detail and identify yourself as that specific wanker makes it sound like you think it's part of your identity and you're proud of your notoriety. That is messed up.

Re: Actual Coal (or, what were they thinking)

(Anonymous) 2025-12-28 11:02 am (UTC)(link)
DC

I think "That is messed up" is too dramatic, but the advice is sound. If you must refer to it, be vague enough that people can't immediately guess you and don't confirm if they do.

I am glad it wasn't a completely devastating event that meant you could never have fun in exchanges again, though.

Re: Actual Coal (or, what were they thinking)

(Anonymous) 2025-12-28 01:51 pm (UTC)(link)
They described it in an honestly relatively vague way in a relevant thread, somebody guessed and they didn't deny it. Unless you're theorizing half this thread is self-reply, that's a pretty big stretch to describe what happened

Re: Actual Coal (or, what were they thinking)

(Anonymous) 2025-12-28 02:48 pm (UTC)(link)
CYRT

Thanks, and that’s fair of you to say.