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On the 7^th night of Hanukkah my vindictive author gave to me....

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Re: Awkward situation

[(Anonymous)]

NC. Given human nature, it's possible the recip would displace their embarrassment by being outraged that the thread OP didn't tell them sooner.

Re: Awkward situation

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Exactly. Is it fair? No. Would it be OP's fault? Also no. But it's still a situation where it might be wiser in the long run to take a different tack.

Re: Awkward situation

[(Anonymous)]

The thing is this isn’t like, “I wish you’d told me sooner that you hate when I make jokes about that seemingly harmless thing you’re actually sensitive about, now I feel unnecessarily bad about it.” It treads more into “I treat everyone except my clique rudely, so you should have tipped me off that it was you.” If a person did this and didn’t seem wholly apologetic at least in the long run without me leading them to the apology on a red carpet, it would seem like they only gave a shit because it threatened the friendship.

Re: Awkward situation

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, obviously? If they cared about hurting the feelings of Rand O. Author, they wouldn't be bitching about their gift in semi-public! Of course they only care because it's their friend!

But OP now knows they're the sort of person who bitches about gifts in semi-public and still wants to preserve the friendship, so the cliqueyness is priced in.