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Non, je ne regrette coal

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I almost got booted from an exchange a while ago because the DNWs in my signup was apparently identical to another person's signup.

The mods thankfully saw reason when it became clear the other person had a habit of literally copying-and-pasting all or part of other people's DNW lists and requests into their signups.

It was stress I did not need, and only occurred because some busybody "reported" me to the mods. FFS.

Damn, DNW lists all look so similar to me anyways. How petty of that person!!

Different anon.

Something very similar happened to me a couple of years ago.

I had a busybody complain to a (non-YT) mod that I was someone’s sock because we shared a (canon) pairing in a mid-sized fandom. Um. What?!

This person I was supposed the sock of and I had no other fandoms in common. In our one shared fandom, we both gave a couple of prompts for our shared pairing that were (sort of) similar, but were also incredibly common stuff for that fandom and pairing.

One of the mods was quite sensible and could see it was groundless, but one of the others was a complete nightmare about it. It took weeks to resolve.

The really pathetic part was that this busybody who went to the mods apparently just wanted to be able to boast that they had “unmasked” a sock. They went looking for anyone who could possibly be targeted as a suspect and went all out on it, no matter how ridiculous it was. They just wanted to be able to lead a witch hunt.

I haven’t participated in an exchange since.

I haven’t participated in an exchange since.

... but you're on _coal.

Sounds fake tbh.

AYRT. So if you're not participating in an exchange, you are not permitted to visit places like _coal? Huh?

You're claiming that you had a bad experience years ago and haven't participated in exchanges since, yet you're on a pretty inactive post that only a small section of coaltide participants (which participation is also dropping, judging by comment numbers over the entire Yuletide event) care about.

If those things are true... why? Why are you here? What could possibly justify sticking around when your defining experience is "mods ran me out of an event?" You've just been hanging around for multiple years to stick it to the man?

I hope not.

da

What business is it of yours why people read coal? Who the fuck do you think you are? Just because they haven't done exchanges since they had a bad experience doesn't mean they don't want to follow the excitement or wank of something they once enjoyed and may go back to eventually. Honestly, your accusations are so stupid and out of left field.

I skipped exchanges for a couple of years because I was taking care of my ailing father and getting six hours of sleep a week, but even though I had no energy for exchanges I followed coal so I still felt like I was part of it in a way. Guess I had no business being here.

You sound pathetic.

There’s so much positive namespace discussion and ways to be a part of Yuletide that you choosing to do coal only apparently this even more pathetic, yikes.

Get help.

You're here trying to troll coal in the middle of January, and you have the nerve to call other people pathetic? Lol.

DA

Pretty sure it is you who is the troll.

DA

Sometimes, you're not interested in "positive namespace discussion". It's boring, especially when you're not part of the thing that's being discussed. Wank is entertaining and provides a good distraction from RL shit, even and especially when you have no times to the thing being wanked about because then you have no emotional investment.

I realize the time to ask this probably isn't January, but where is the positive discussion happening? I started reading coal a few years back because I didn't see any volume in the main coms on LJ (and then DW). Or at least, nothing like the volume it had back in the day. Discord? Something else? Something with a form factor like Coal where an old like myself can follow a discussion.

The Discord is year round.

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NC.

ITA. Who the fuck does AYRT think they are? God?

NA.

You're not very bright, are you?

Why would someone not participating in a fanfic exchange for an unspecified period of time mean that they don’t look at _coal?

I once had someone copy my DNW list word-for-word in Yuletide (and my list wasn't generic in its phrasing, so it was definitely copied), and it could have looked really bad for me since we shared several fandoms as well. If I had to guess, they surfed the letters/app for others in the same fandoms & just cribbed other people's stuff for their own letter.

Thankfully no one noticed or reported, but it's a sign of why playing detective on your own isn't always the best approach.

This has happened to me too! I think it was just a newbie who shared one of my fandoms, saw my request, and then copied half my DNWs and likes without any malicious intent, but I still spent the whole exchange waiting for someone to wank about this clearly being my sock.

I'm so sorry to hear that caused you stress, coalie!

This is why I absolutely hate sockwank: very rarely is it actually a true case of socking. It's usually people copying and pasting other people's stuff and not editing it, people who know each other, or people who just happen to like the same stuff.

Thankfully no one noticed or reported, but it's a sign of why playing detective on your own isn't always the best approach.

This this this. Yes! A million, billion times over.

This needs to be distributed to every fucking busybody and wannabe detective in fandom. There is an alarmingly large number of people who have been banned from exchanges and/or dragged because of this sort of context-free stalking and other mob mentality stupidity.

Yes, different people do share the same fandoms, pairings, and DNWs. Yes, different people love the same tropes, meaning they will like and request similar things. Yes, many people do "borrow" from other people's DNWs and prompts, and they don't always change up what they have "borrowed".

This has happened to me multiple times and I don't mind at all. Sharing is caring!

What I DO mind is when some idiot with too much time on their hands then goes around wanting to make themselves feel important by playing anonymous detective and then running to the mods with their "evidence". If you're enough of an asshole to make your "evidence" public, the mods may then feel pressured to make a snap decision, which is never a good thing.

Busybodies and drama are a big part of the reason why I don't mod anymore: anonymous wannabe detectives using incomplete "evidence" gained by online stalking that even the laziest police officer would throw out to stir up bullshit.

You sound an awful lot like My IT Skills Include coalie.

Not that I can tell, and even if it was them, it doesn't matter, because the comment you replied to is completely reasonable.

+1

(It was pretty obvious there were several people involved in the IT skills thread. A number of valid points were raised in that thread. So who cares if the person above is one of the people from the IT skills thread? Which I don't think they are, but whatever.)

No, it really isn’t, lol. Where else are busybody amateur detectives getting innocent users who just happen to have similar interests banned other than the socktopus? Most of the exchange circuit doesn’t even ban socks, let alone care enough to sniff them out.

NC. ITA with your comment about the dangers of people deciding they want to play detective!

I know two girls who were banned from an exchange over similar likes and names. But those similarities were easily explained when you consider the fact that they are actually sisters. So stupid!

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