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This is Yuletide, everybody make a scene

I am the sock with the tear-away face

Low-effort with your gift and gone without a trace

I am the "who" when you call, "Who does an exchange without acknowledging their gift?"
I am the wanker blowing through your fics comments
I am the coalie dragging your letter at night
Filling your exchange to the brim with fright!

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I mean ... I'd really rather not write for a sock, given the choice. I'll DO it. I won't bitch about it in public. But I'd rather have a social media presence I can comb through if I get stumped.

If I treat someone without a social presence because the prompts were good, I'll be writing mostly for me. I play a lot faster and loser with the stories than I do with assignments or treats for people with a strong social presence. (I don't skirt DNWs and I don't post until they already have a main gift, but I also don't sweat it if the story ends up closer to ODAO than a tailor-made experience of a fic for the recip's specific preferences.)

I've also made a few friends and met a lot of cool people through writing for people at yuletide over the years. There's no chance of that with a recip who only has an AO3 signup.

The experience is just less enjoyable than if I can "get to know" the person through their social media.

TBH you sound like an asshole. "You only deserve a fic written for your prompts and likes if you have sufficient social media presence to satisfy me, the ruler of the universe" is a shitty take. It's a fic exchange, not a friending meme.

The response from my recips would indicate otherwise

DC I'm not sure what your interpretation of your recips' comments has to do with cyrt's point, which was that this is kind of a shitty attitude to take into an exchange.

NC. +1 forever and ever, Coalie.

jsyk "If you don't have social media accounts linked to your AO3 that I can stalk, you'll get a crap fic from me" is not a good look.

Nice try, but I've never had a less than thrilled recip (my recips have all been multi-paragraph with quotes and multiple things they loved and didn't know they wanted until I have it to them) and, again, I don't post stories-i-mostly-wrote-for-me until the recipe already has a main gift.

NC. You don't carry these incredibly unsettling stalking habits over into you real-life relationships do you?

Your posts here, where you righteously defend your behavior, make you sound like a nightmare with serious control issues.

CYRT

You're reading a whole lot into this, aren't you?

But to answer your question: No, I don't stalk or "stalk" people in real life.

I do have a fantastic memory for things people around me like, off-hand mentions of nichey preferences, interests and favorites, and hyperfocus on sourcing the perfect gift for the person I'm gifting. Sorry if you think that's creepy, I guess?

CYRT. My very worst YT recipients, including those who never said thank you, have dozens of non-exchange stories on AO3 and have regularly-updated Tumblr/DW/LJ accounts. My YT recipients who have left the best feedback and comments have had little to no Tumblr/DW/LJ presence, and one actually had a completely-empty AO3 account prior to that YT. All wrote great DYW letters.

To have gone into YT those years where my recipient had a lack of internet presence with a downer attitude would have done all of those awesome recipients a serious disservice.

This thread should have demonstrated clearly to you that a lot of people don't link other platforms to their AO3 identity, mostly for reasons of privacy, and that the content you'll find on the other platforms some people do link their AO3 to will be of little to no use to their YT writer.

I have ADHD so have to deal with hyperfocus daily. What I'm "reading into" is what sounds an intense dislike for any situation you can't control, including by knowing as much information as possible. Just chill out and enjoy YT, okay?

The thing is, just because they talked about liking the thing before or in certain context, doesn't mean they are in the mood for it now or for that specific fandom/characters. I don't do AO3 bookmarks in part because of wild assumptions I've seen around based on them (and not just in the context of the exchanges). My mood/preferences vary wildly and I have a lot of "I don't usually like this thing, but this one fic works for me" moments too. I'd rather not have a "pleasant surprise" I forgot to explicitly DNW - or merely didn't ask for because I didn't feel like it - sprung on me because someone feels they deduced what I really want, thanks.

And anyway, it's supposed to be for your recip, not for feeding your self-image of the most perfect gift-giver ever. And I say this as someone who does make note of things like that for social purposes irl. There are limits. For a fic exchange, someone with a long letter really doesn't need to give you anything else.

lol

You sound like you'd be a lot of fun at parties.

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