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[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

He did what he is used to doing with his friends before acclimating. Annoying? Yes. But you're all acting like it's some big crime when we're at the same space with no-homo writers and a whole bunch of other dickheads.

You're not slick with the 'you are', lol. Some of us just have the tiniest bit of empathy and patience.

[(Anonymous)]

Uh huh.

[(Anonymous)]

DC

I blocked him for a completely different reason. For a stream of TMI about negative family experiences that borderline triggered me.

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

Yeah, there's a lot of TMI going on. I have so many people blocked because they can't learn to use warnings and spoiler marks, for real.

[(Anonymous)]

Ah yes, you’re just better than all of us for not minding Elijah’s personality and bad behavior. So admirable. If only we had empathy. If only we too were unbothered by their shit all over the table.

[(Anonymous)]

Elijah is fucking annoying. There's a difference between acknowledging that and holding any bad thing they've ever done against them forever.

[(Anonymous)]

You'll point to where that is happening here?

[(Anonymous)]

"Forever"? It's not like this is ancient history. If people are still complaining about the same incidents a year from now, then yeah, maybe you'll have a point.

[(Anonymous)]

Has he actually done that much acclimating? The last time I checked in was like a week ago, and he was exactly as annoying as he'd ever been. ("Normie" ships, omfg.)

[(Anonymous)]

Elijah, if your feelings are hurt by others saying in a different place that things you said were hurtful, use it as a growth opportunity. No one's calling for your head or screaming that you're cancelled. We're complaining about you on an anon meme, which is far more empathetic and patient than what you and your friends would do in the reverse situation.

[(Anonymous)]

NC

Elijah is too much teenager for my hobby time and I have him blocked, but coalie? This statement makes me like you way less:

which is far more empathetic and patient than what you and your friends would do in the reverse situation.

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

You're right. I have no reason to assume he and his fellow teens where he picked up slurs would harass and doxx people who said things they don't like. I made the assumption based only on what all the other teens I've seen throwing around slurs have done to people who said things they don't like.

[(Anonymous)]

ok boomer

[(Anonymous)]

That's a hell of a reach and says way more about you than him.

[(Anonymous)]

CYRT

Yes, because all young queer men using the f-word are antis. His very first couple days on EAD was non stop complaining about antis and people thinking he was problematic. He did it in the most annoying way possible, but that’s what he said.

Do you get this confused about Black people not code-switching around you and using the n-word? You sound just like some of my white colleagues getting outraged by a Black 17 year old calling a third party a n***a.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, let's offer empathy and patience to the adult man using the f-word on the internet, and not to the LGBT+ people who had to see that.

[(Anonymous)]

Not to the *other LGBTQ people. And I hate it, I blocked it, but it’s 100% a code-switching problem, don’t be obtuse.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

He's definitely not in the right crowd to be using that sort of terminology, but he's using terms that apply to himself. Let's not pretend like gay men referring to themselves or groups they belong to with that particular f-word is any sort of rare.

[(Anonymous)]

Code-switching is not a Brand New Thing to teenagers.

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, it can be. Anyone who’s tried to get their students to not swear or talk about getting high in the classroom knows that.

[(Anonymous)]

It's also not a Brand New Thing to gay men, which is what cyrt was saying. Unless you're agreeing with them? It's common in both subgroups and therefore not the red flag that the person a few parents up seemed to think it is.

[(Anonymous)]

It seems like failing to code switch and blend isn't common on the Yuletide Discord/IRC/members comm even for the damn vets.

Talking about chronic illness? People who have been in chat for years still do it.

Badmouthing your assignment when it will be really easy to connect the dots once reveals happen? Will only get you chastised if a mod is around and people still do it every year.

Sharing all the TMI details of your life? You have to block some people because even after 10 years and aa whole platform change later, they still do it.

Whinging about lack of comments when we can all see you haven't commented on yours? Probably the most obvious example of things you OBVIOUSLY shouldn't do in Yuletide culture and yet it is the FREE SPACE on wanky Yulechat bingo cards.

I get that his brand of bad chat behavior is your pet peeve, but let's please not act like breaking all obvious societal norms or boundaries and not bothering strangers with your TMI starts or ends with this fucking Elijah kid. He likely saw how the regulars act and thought not bothering to blend was fine.

[(Anonymous)]

He’s also LGBT+. He just also seems to conflate being edgy with being an adult. It’s very middle school but not, like, idk, a random cishet redditor who got lost.

[(Anonymous)]

Instead of explaining it as 'code switching' or 'It's important to use a different set of words here because we're trying to be politically neutral', a lot of people tend to go 'If you say faggot you are committing HATE CRIMES >:CCCC no matter the context!!1111 U should NEVAR SAY IT!!!!'

Which makes it less of a 'Getting along with others' issue, and more of a 'Someone is oppressing my right to free speech' issue. When antis are also oppressing the right to write kinky porn, the two can blur.

Source: Was 14 once.

[(Anonymous)]

+1