In your example I have notice the fans who go out of their way to DNW Legolas/Gimli tend to cluster around tropes I don't like, dislike tropes and ships I do like, and don't view canon or fanon the way I do. That is their right and prerogative and I will not say they cannot or should not curate their exchange experiences. It is my job to curate mine and I would rather spend my time writing for someone who didn't go out of their way to say they don't want that ship because that is how I curate my time. You can spend the next month wanking on multiple communities that you just don't understand but multiple people have explained multiple times and it seems as though you do understand and hope that wanking more will change their minds. It won't. It will reinforce their opinion that avoiding recipients who do this is the correct decision because you won't take "I don't want to write for you when I have someone else to write for instead" as an answer. Exchanges are meant to be fun. I would not have fun writing for you. I will game away and write for someone else who is more likely to share my takes which will be more fun for me and for my recipient, and you don't have to worry about someone sneaking in some food ingredient on your imaginary pizza. No one will, because we're over here having our fun together. You win, I win, my recipient wins, so stop whining about your own DNWs.
No one on earth is saying you can't do shit, only that you're off your rocker with this conspiracy level imagining that everyone who doesn't want dwarf fucking in one particular gift is part of some shadowy cabal who does fandom differently than you.
Feel absolutely free to be like this at someone else. I would not have fun if you wrote for me either.
I fully believe that you believe there is this strong predictive association, but there are people out there who fully believe in the magical healing power of crystals, too. The human brain is kind of shit at identifying causal or correlative patterns with any degree of accuracy, so of course you'll get pushback when you insist this seriously that a ship DNW is a more useful shorthand for a whole 'cluster' of id mismatches than, say, looking at their actual listed likes and the way they write the ship you matched on (which is a ship you have in common regardless of what else they happen to DNW).
Also, get off the cross a bit, yeah? People are always going to argue if they think they see someone being Wrong On The Internet. It doesn't mean they're refusing to accept the idea of you, personally, not writing for them.
I'll be honest, the reason I can't relate is all my exchange fandoms are Yuletide sized. The level of fannish activity simply does not exist to show patterns like this.
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Re: what sorts of DNWs are we talking about??
(Anonymous) 2025-05-01 02:55 pm (UTC)(link)Re: what sorts of DNWs are we talking about??
(Anonymous) 2025-05-01 03:07 pm (UTC)(link)Feel absolutely free to be like this at someone else. I would not have fun if you wrote for me either.
Re: what sorts of DNWs are we talking about??
(Anonymous) 2025-05-01 05:27 pm (UTC)(link)Re: what sorts of DNWs are we talking about??
(Anonymous) 2025-05-01 10:00 pm (UTC)(link)I fully believe that you believe there is this strong predictive association, but there are people out there who fully believe in the magical healing power of crystals, too. The human brain is kind of shit at identifying causal or correlative patterns with any degree of accuracy, so of course you'll get pushback when you insist this seriously that a ship DNW is a more useful shorthand for a whole 'cluster' of id mismatches than, say, looking at their actual listed likes and the way they write the ship you matched on (which is a ship you have in common regardless of what else they happen to DNW).
Also, get off the cross a bit, yeah? People are always going to argue if they think they see someone being Wrong On The Internet. It doesn't mean they're refusing to accept the idea of you, personally, not writing for them.
Re: what sorts of DNWs are we talking about??
(Anonymous) 2025-05-02 01:16 am (UTC)(link)I'll be honest, the reason I can't relate is all my exchange fandoms are Yuletide sized. The level of fannish activity simply does not exist to show patterns like this.