yeah and i am a gay male. gay men can’t tell lesbians what’s lesbophobic and lesbians can’t tell gay men what’s homophobic against gay men. last i checked homophobes don’t think anal is a lesbian thing. they think it’s only gay men doing it and it’s dirty and hurts and there’s shit everywhere, like a lot of posts on this bullshit thread seem to think. and that it’s more extreme than straight sex. no one would have blinked if a woman said she was in bed with her husband or something, because that’s normal right? but suddenly if it’s two men it’s oversharing