(Anonymous) 2020-01-02 05:06 am (UTC)(link)
¿Porque no los dos?

I both do not want creators offering or requesting their own canons in fanwork exchanges because of power imbalance/general awkward weirdness issues, and do not want to discuss my kinks with them because I find it squicky and boundary-crossing.

The authors who claim their characters are their children and fanfiction is therefore kidnapping and/or raping their children are nuts, but discussing explicit fic about a creator's own characters with them does feel a little bit like discussing a partner's kinks with their mom.

(Anonymous) 2020-01-02 06:08 am (UTC)(link)
I both do not want creators offering or requesting their own canons in fanwork exchanges because of power imbalance/general awkward weirdness issues, and do not want to discuss my kinks with them because I find it squicky and boundary-crossing.

Yeah, exactly (just commented above). You put it much better than I could.