"bc lbr no one’s telling men in fandom they should write more lesbian porn."

Maybe we should be. Also, this reminds me of a friend I once had (no longer) who got huffy about women writing slash.

Said friend was a dude who refused to put their own fic (which included femslash) on AO3 because it was "too permanent".

I have no patience for people too chickenshit for the mortifying ordeal of being known through their fanworks, who nonetheless make uncharitable assumptions about the people who are not too chickenshit.

And what's more, this is Yuletide. In my tiny fandom of like one and a half active writers, I write primarily M/M, but 90% of the F/F fic for this fandom is also by me, because 1) I can enjoy and write more than one ship, 2) I know people who enjoy that ship and write it for them, even if it's not my mainstay. I doubt this is atypical for small fandoms. So getting up in arms about skews towards M/M aren't just entitled, in practice they sound ungrateful, too - because any person who writes both F/F and M/M and has contributed to the numbers of the latter now feels like their efforts for the former aren't appreciated because they didn't fucking meet quota