How does that make her not new to exchange culture, which is what everyone is pissed about? Endlessly going "Oh no what if my recip doesn't like my fic" in a public space is a newbie exchange mistake. "I'm gonna try something dodgy to get this fic done" is something you probably shouldn't say about an exchange fic, but no one would care if you do drugs and write fic for yourself. Oversharing insecurely about yourself in an off-topic server is, again, failing to understand the norms of the space because you're new to it.