See, I wouldn't have blinked an eye at "kinking on" or "obsessed with". But "fetishizing" specifically has a connotation that makes it a big red flag IMO.
(Having said that, I just realized that I got it wrong! I like dark haired tops and blond bottoms, oops.)
Re: Letter 3T1L - Mary Renault book letters
See, I wouldn't have blinked an eye at "kinking on" or "obsessed with". But "fetishizing" specifically has a connotation that makes it a big red flag IMO.
(Having said that, I just realized that I got it wrong! I like dark haired tops and blond bottoms, oops.)