People like me who are pansexual don't really care about anatomy, identity or gender. None of that factors into whether I can find someone attractive. It's so simple for us. And so hard for me to wrap my head around the need to label people's sexual identities according to a complete stranger's opinion. Why. Does It. Matter?
A woman who is attracted to women is a lesbian.
A lesbian who is attracted to women but not women who might have male genitalia or other male attributes (not all trans women do) might not be transphobic. They might just put more importance in and find attraction more based on a vagina than other female attributes.
A man who is attracted to men is gay.
A man who is attracted to men but not men who might have female genitalia or other female attributes (not all trans men do) may not be transphobic, but just put more importance in and find attraction more based on a penis than other male attributes.
There are plenty of gay people and lesbians who are transphobic, but I don't think it's correct to assume the things that attract or do not attract them must qualify as inclusion in that group.
There's also a vast chasm between not being attracted to a trans person and finding them disgusting. Everything isn't that black or white.
Re: Chocolate Box - Letter 3T1L
People like me who are pansexual don't really care about anatomy, identity or gender. None of that factors into whether I can find someone attractive. It's so simple for us. And so hard for me to wrap my head around the need to label people's sexual identities according to a complete stranger's opinion. Why. Does It. Matter?
A woman who is attracted to women is a lesbian.
A lesbian who is attracted to women but not women who might have male genitalia or other male attributes (not all trans women do) might not be transphobic. They might just put more importance in and find attraction more based on a vagina than other female attributes.
A man who is attracted to men is gay.
A man who is attracted to men but not men who might have female genitalia or other female attributes (not all trans men do) may not be transphobic, but just put more importance in and find attraction more based on a penis than other male attributes.
There are plenty of gay people and lesbians who are transphobic, but I don't think it's correct to assume the things that attract or do not attract them must qualify as inclusion in that group.
There's also a vast chasm between not being attracted to a trans person and finding them disgusting. Everything isn't that black or white.